Secondhand Sunday

Sunday, July 4, 2010

Sundays are my Secondhand day. I'm basically too lazy to think of anything new to say so I re-post a "vintage" entry.

If you aren't in the mood for repeats, please feel free to change the channel.

"The art of the compliment"

Original Post Date, February 7, 2010

"You look so beautiful tonight."

"That dress brings out your eyes."

"I love your new haircut.

It never ceases to amaze me how little men realize the impact of a compliment. And, guys, we know when it's sincere so don't try to fake it for brownie points. Leave the faking to us.

There's nothing more frustrating than hearing, "Of course I think you're pretty. I mean, I am with you, right?"

It's moments like that when we scratch our heads and think, Okay, why is it that I'm with you, again?

A compliment makes us feel desirable and sexy and validates your attraction to us. It's such a small gesture but it really does mean a lot so throw us a bone once in a while. I said bone, not boner. And remember, make it genuine and from the heart.

My favorite memory of a heartfelt but slightly off the mark compliment was from a guy I was dating when I was 21. We were meeting up at a friend's boat that was docked at a restaurant downtown. The place was crazy busy but I saw him scanning the crowd and he had such an excited look when he saw me.

When I finally made my way over to him, he grabbed my hands, kissed them and said, "I saw you walking toward me with that long beautiful hair and those big blue eyes Feldman."

Hey, I knew what he meant. It made me laugh and blush at the same time. Besides, Marty Feldman's eyes were really blue.


  1. Striking indeed. FFS what was he thinking??? But its sorta cute in an adorable kinda way, right?

    I so agree with you. You know someone has really fallen for you when they look deep into your eyes and say "you're so fucking beautiful!"

  2. That was funny! I totally agree, women want in a fierce way to feel desired by their man. Or we're just not feeling it.


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