With heartfelt appreciation..

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Thank you all for your kind words of sympathy and friendship regarding Mom’s passing. They’ve given me great comfort.

We buried Mom last Monday, which was a CRAZY rainy and windy day. I was sure that the tent that they had erected at the gravesite was going to blow away and it was probably Mom’s last hurrah. We joked that the weather was befitting of her personality – you remembered her when you met her. My friend Nancy was standing next to me holding back the tent so that it didn't knock me onto the casket.

I’ve been blessed with the amazing fortune of a close knit group of girlfriends who were there for me the day of the service. Nancy, Michelle and I spent the rest of the afternoon shopping because, you know, nothing heals like some power shopping.

I took all of last week off and continued my power shopping through the week. I've been fine as long as I keep myself busy. Now, I'm not ignoring my grief. You know no one advocates feeling things more than me and there's nothing like the cathartic power of a good cry. It's just different than it was with Dad. I'm sad that she's gone but I'm so at peace knowing that she's with Dad and her parents and brothers. They always had so much fun together.

I'm sure I don't have to tell any of you that the waves of sadness come at odd times. I went to her house and was going through some things the other day. I didn't shed a tear the whole time until I got to the grocery store and passed the pudding snack cups. She loved those things. Clean up in Aisle 8!

Besides, I know she'll never really be gone. She's been telling Lisa and I for years that she's going to come back and haunt us. Maybe I'll have a medium come in to see what Mom has to say. I'm sure it will be something like this.

"Did you join Weight Watchers yet? And what kind of hairstyle is that?!"

Love you, Mom~


  1. So sorry, Chrissy. Please accept my sincere sympathy. You seem to be doing so well, but it's never easy. Hugs to you.

  2. I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. *hugs* Will be keeping you in thoughts and prayers.

  3. Is funny the things that we associate with our parents. I am sure you will contnue to find those things around. Glad you have your friends around you. Is good to have that support. Take care of you. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

  4. I'm glad that you can begin healing now....just remember we're all here when you need a shoulder to cry on! I'm thinking of you and sending hugs your way!

  5. I'm terribly sorry for your loss...

  6. @Vegas Linda Lou,
    Thank you. It will just take time, I'm sure.

    @Sunny Dee,
    Thanks. :-)

    @Simply Suthern,
    I appreciate that. Yes, I'm truly blessed.

    @Jenny Brown,
    Yes, it's been a long road. Thank you!

  7. I went off the radar (no internet) for the past week. I came back and was saddened to hear of your mom's passing. You can take great comfort that she's with your dad, and that she'll be haunting you. My thoughts are with you, Chrissy.

  8. I love this post, just for that reason--the love in it...and I can just hear the 'You're not going to wear that out, are you?...

    Grief will come in waves, let it flow over you and give you pause to think, but not let it knock you down...that's how my therapist helped me with my loss of my husband...

  9. @Scribe,
    Ha ha....exactly. Thanks so much.

    Great advice, thank you.


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